The other evening I came home from work in a terrible mood. I had a stressful day. Nothing went the right way. My train was late both ways, I couldn’t find the test centre for my interpreting assignments and I got totally wet running around in circles, the candidates weren’t prepared so they didn’t pass the tests (although not my fault, it was still a bit upsetting). My son lost the house keys and my husbands forgot to pick up my daughter from football training etc etc. When I got home I was ready to explode and then it happened. My husband told me that our neighbour and friend whom we’ve known for 15 years had just discovered he has pancreatic cancer, probably not operable anymore. He’s 51 years old, he’s got a teenage boy and another son who’s just started working. He’s never smoked, took drugs, drank heavily or had an unhealthy lifestyle. He is actually quite sporty and is always been helping everybody. A nice person. His wife left him and the kids 18 months ago to go and live with someone else. Nobody knows exactly where she is now. She’s never got in touch with them again. On the surface she was the perfect wife and mother but deeper she was a different person. We spent the last 18 months trying to help him picking up the pieces of his life and now this. I know I do not need to tell you this, but I say it anyway: Life is a bitch. Awful and unjust.
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You made me cry, A. But you were right to shout out your rage like that! I'm also thinking of another terrible awful tragedy happening to someone I work with. Death is a bitch awful and unjust: she's trying to take a little girl away from her dear ones. She's only 6.
That is just plain awful, Antonella. Everything on top of each other. I hope your friend can have a good quality of life for the period he has got left.
I am so sorry to hear about your friend Antonella. What an awful thing. I wonder if the break up of his marriage had anything to do with it, stress can cause cancer but maybe it is just the luck of the draw. Life can be so bloody unfair sometimes. I will pray for him. Thank you for the lovely Anniversary card, it was so sweet of you and the only one I received from internet friends. Hugs.
Sometimes words can't express the emotions you want to convey. This is one of those times - and I don't even know your friend. But you are right to put thigns into perspective. At least your friend has friends like you around.
That's so unjust... we live in a heartless universe, for sure.
Very, very sad and as you say, unjust. Life doesn't seem to make sense sometimes - the good guys get the shitty end of the stick (pardon my french) while the bad guys get away with murder.
I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. x
Oh, so very sad! So sorry to hear about your friend... :( A big hug!
That's so sad about your friend. I hope it gets better. And hope you have a better week too.
It is not fair. Sometimes we have to just wonder why..... (hugs) to him and his family.
That's terrible Antonella. What awful news to come back to. What a great neighbour you are though. Sending lots of hugs x
I'm so sorry, Antonella. That is really terrible news, and I wish your friend much strength.
Thanks to all of you for your kind comments. Unfortunately the situation is degenerating and we don't know how long he will be with us. It's devastating! Let's hope in the chemio and prayers...
Your poor friend is the same age as me and it really is a shock to hear something like this. If only we could see inside ourselves every few years and try and stem whatever is developing. I suppose one day it will be the norm. I really hope the medical people can try and stop his decline somehow
Just popped in to see how are you today. Wishing you and yours a happy holiday season. Hugs!
Wow, that's the kind of day you'd like to jump into a time machine and just hit the erase button.
Hope you have a better weekend. Guess that wont be difficult to achieve.
Hi there-what a sad situation and its a blessing that he has you to look out for him, wishing you all very best wishes, take care.
Oh, boy! Sorry I made a "mess" with my comment. :( I just wanted to say that I miss reading you. Hope you are having a nice holiday season. Take care and have lots of fun back home! Hugs!!
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